The Chrysalis


N.1.  The Chrysalis, is an important and necessary stage in life. We enter the  chrysalis to find isolation from external distractions because it provides an enclosed, safe and quiet space that allows for the transformation to occur.

Taking time off, away from all those elements that stretch and pull us in all directions, scattering our minds, making us feel lost is fundamental for inner growth. It doesn’t matter how we choose to take time off, it can be done in very subtle or more obvious ways. That is up to each one of us to decide. There is no right or wrong…only choices!


When I entered my chrysalis stage, I was married with a lovely teen-age son, and even though I was still there for them I also had a strong need to create a lot of space just for myself, to be alone, undisturbed.

How? I love cycling, so I used to pack water, snacks, a notebook, a blanket and my camera in a small backpack and left the house for a few hours. My destinations were quiet, isolated places outdoor where I could be surrounded by nature and where I knew I wasn’t going to meet other humans. I needed to spend time on my own and I was totally at ease with that. 


Inside my own and very special chrysalis I was able to reflect, meditate, feel, be and simply observe the wave of feelings moving inside me and the subtle changes occurring. The tranquillity of the surroundings allowed me to find a sense of peace within.


Every time I needed to reach for that very special, quiet place, I was escaping from home and family, not because I didn’t love them anymore but because I needed to find myself again. The changes that were occurring on a cellular level caused so much internal turmoil and confusion. I had to find some clarity for my own sanity.


It is very easy for a woman to loose herself under the weight of responsibilities and worries that grow the moment she has children. We are instinctually caring creatures and we tend to put ourselves last and then loose the sense of who we are, what we need or want. So, when the time comes, the kids have grown into adults we start looking for that part of ourself that feels lost. 

This time transformed me and prepared me to be re-born again, physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.  

This is a visual and symbolic representation of such an important stage in the life of a woman, the way I choose to express it visually and present it to you.


Winter seemed to be the perfect season for the creation and development of this chrysalis.

Winter the season that induces rest and inner reflection. A time when all life’s energy slow down and move inward. 


Metamorphosis Day Retreat


You are warmly invited to join us on our Metamorphosis Journey for magical midlife women ~ a one day retreat to explore our personal journeys of transformation for women, pre, peri & post menopause.
On this day retreat, we warmly welcome you to a safe and loving cocoon where we will gather in a loving community and deepen into nourishing rituals for you to fully flourish and expand into the next phase. 
When: Saturday 22nd February 2020 ~ 9.30am-5.30pm
Where: Space108, 1a Greenside, Peebles, Scottish Borders EH45 8JB, Scotland 

  

Cost: £120 

(Bookings of two or more people will receive a 15% Discount)


Includes day retreat, art & remedy making materials, nourishing lunch, snacks & refreshments throughout day.


Non refundable deposit of £25 secures your booking (with difference paid in full by 15th February, 1 week before retreat)


Booking & queries: 

email hello@hanisavalentino.com or text/what’s app to Hanisa on (+44) 0777 003 7979

email fiona@fionamorrisherbalist.co.ukor text/whats app to Fiona on (+44) 07906518715 

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The Metamorphosis Journey is a co-creation of: 
🌺 Hanisa Valentino, Conceptual Fine Art Photographerwww.hanisavalentino.com

🌺 Nicola Orr, Holistic Chef & Yoga Teacher of Nourish by Nicola www.nourishbynicola.com

🌺 Fiona Morris, The Natural Healing Guide, Herbalist & Holistic Therapist of Nourish and Flourish with Fiona Morris  www.fionamorrisherbalist.co.uk

We are a collective of women who believe in the magical potential hidden in the female metamorphosis at midlife. 
Together we use a creatively nurturing approach to share our stories and learn natural healing methods through a range of experiences designed to thoroughly nourish body, mind & spirit. 
We will journey into creative and therapeutic techniques to put us in touch with our powerful feminine energy and create a deep well of support to sustain us throughout the transformative midlife years. 
Here is a sample of what to expect in our journey together…
🌹 Soulful creative connection and story sharing in a safe space
🌹 Tea ritual and ceremonial approach infused with all we do
🌹 Kundalini Yoga to awaken your powerful feminine energy 
🌹 Medicinal plants and remedy making to support you though your transformative rite of passage 
🌹 Delicious food & snacks to replenish you through the day
🌹 Yoga Nidra, a deeply relaxing and restorative meditation technique 
🌹 Therapeutic Photography, to creatively explore your own story, with its joys and struggles, a powerful healing technique to portray our feelings and emotions
🌹 Meridian stretches and body tapping techniques to re-awaken the energy in your body and support all the main organs in their functions
🌹 Empowering tools for transformation to take home with you in your medicine bag


Inside my Shell

When I feel threatened

When I feel rejected

When I feel scared of not being loved or liked anymore

When I feel scared of my own feelings of love and closeness towards others….


I retreat inside an invisible, protective, hard shell and leave the rest of the world outside. I cut the links, the connections that would normally help me being part of that world.

I isolate myself, I become the small island in the middle of the vast ocean that cannot be reached by anyone. 

It takes courage and an open, fearless heart to reach me on that far away island. Someone who doesn’t get swept away by my own pain. Someone who doesn’t let the “egotistic mind” come in between or interfere with their own selfless motives.


I remove myself from the external world until I find balance again; till I gain control over my own negative emotions.

Having control over my feelings and emotions makes me feel safer because when I don’t get too close emotionally I can remain detached and untouched (???) by other people feelings, by their own changeable moods.

Changes!!…is that what all this is about?


Preservation is not letting anyone come too close to see my vulnerability; it is also not wanting to see their weak spots and their vulnerabilities!! 


The memories I have of me growing up are of a child who often felt abandoned and pushed away, unloved if I showed….if I….what?! I think if I wanted to be myself, or if I went against what others felt it was best for me, maybe!

Little I knew as young person that they were reacting that way to protect their own unworthy feelings and shutting down the love, helped them escape that pain.


When the energy channel of love and affection was shut off during childhood and afterwards too, I felt punished without knowing why or what I have done to deserve it. Then like the victim who turns into the perpetrator I began to use the same punishment on myself by shutting out love within and without. Love had no way to enter or to go out.  


And that became a pattern that my mind has played with me since then. The believe that I must have done something wrong to be rejected was created and the more it was played out by the mind, the deeper it became.

Self-sabotage


Love feels good when is there to feel but when is blocked, shut off it makes you feel empty.  


This is what inspired  me to create this work.

 


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